A  survey says women find that mama's boys make ideal husbands. Are they spot on?

A mother's towering presence in a man's life is usually seen as a turnoff for women looking for Mr Right. Most women want to be the sole priority in their partner's life. However, a recent survey conducted by a matrimonial website revealed that 72 per cent of the 24,000 Indian women questioned rated actor Ranbir Kapoor as the 'ideal husband' even as they termed him a 'mama's boy'.

Ranbir's mother, actor Neetu Singh, has often been said to have great influence in his life. Not just does the 30-year-old actor continue living at his parents' home at Pali Hill, Bandra, but Singh, it is believed, is quite vocal about her opinion of Ranbir's girlfriends. This doesn't seem to have affected their relationship. The two even performed together at a recent awards ceremony, with Ranbir grooving to popular songs from Neetu's films. However, does that really make Ranbir a mama's boy?

Consulting psychologist and family therapist at Jaslok Hospital and Bhatia Hospital, Dr Maya Kirpalani, says a typical mama's boy is someone who allows his mother to influence all the decisions in his life — where he goes for a vacation, whom he dates and even what he wears. While it may be easy to categorise Ranbir as man who knows his mother's heart, it's unlikely that the women surveyed would have said the same about Salman Khan, who is equally close to his mother, Salma. "That may be because Salman is known to take his own decisions," adds Kirpalani.

Counselling psychologist Deepak Kashyap warns that the women surveyed were identifying only with values visible on the surface. Kashyap points out, "It's like getting attracted to shiny, white teeth which may give the impression of good health and youth. Women feel a man who treats his mother lovingly, has the ability to understand the feminine perspective." Kashyap says such women will feel that they will have a say in the marriage because her partner will listen to her.

Women understand that a mother is an important figure in a man's life and thus, observing the nature of that relationship is a very important factor in deciding whether the man is 'marriage material'. Of those surveyed, 62 per cent said 'mama's boys' would make nurturing and patient husbands because they were brought up well.

Twenty-five-year-old creative writer Meera Sahi says, "If he can't treat his mother well, you can't expect him to treat others kindly. If you have to understand why certain men are the way they are — Hitler or Gandhi — you must go back and see their relationship with the mother."

There's a fine line between healthy and unhealthy dependence, Kirpalani says. "It doesn't help if a man as an adult has to depend on his mother to take all the decisions in his life. It will, obviously, create a major conflict between the wife and the mother-in-law.

"A man has to be strong enough to say 'no' to both his mother and his wife," she adds.

Consider this. Is your man intelligent? Will he stand by you if his mother is against you? Kashyap says women need to find answers to these before they say 'I do'.

Why is it important to understand economy for healthy relationship?

Millenium relationships are way different from the relationships of last century. The life is more luxurious, and more informatic oriented. To keep pace with life partners have streeful times working jobs and balancing the life, and in the mix of this is bills, and needs and must haves, and what not. So understanding your short to medium term goal and how it matches with your date/ partner/ perspective is very important.  There are various tools that can help to get to the mathematics of the currency, but unfortunately there is nothing that would help you understand your partner, other than the honest and real conversation..... Contd... 

What is important to understand is that the earth and the planets seems to have changed their surface. They maintained their relationship to other planets orbiting around the sun. This may be very well the reason that astrology since its inception has not been changed at the core, and is revered by the sages and gurus. The core of the prediction has magenitized many and brough critics to think at times. The mathematics of the calculations though same may bring different results, simply beause of the different analytical ability of the astrologer. The other significant factor is the accuracy of the date of birth and time,and most importantly location.

Most of us fall under the perfect SNM curve, and the confidence and authenticity can be 98%. There are always outliars they are various factors, but the degree of variotion from the scale often still lies with in a certain degree. 

Since the relationship of planets have not changed of million years so has not changed the basics of life, we still need the women and man to move the life forward.  

How important is the Astrological perdiction and how does it help finding the true love?

The answer lies within the bounds of the society, there are zillion examples where a perfect match based on the right calculations have yielded above normal results. But at the same time there are thousand examples where the matches seemed perfect throught he lense of calculations have failed - sometimes fataly.  

Though there are two different result sets, the answer to the question above is that astrology has and is intrumental in finding the true love. The probablity of success definately increases with the right assistance.

People date and get hitched every day, but if we start looking at the basics, 8 out of 10 still have consulted astrologers at some point in Indian origin. There are people who wont drink or breathe without the advice of astrologer but at the same time there are people who wont care for astrologer.  Depending on where you want to ally yourself to , you can agree or disagree with what is said here. disscussion to continue.......